One Simple Trick to Achieve New Year’s Resolutions
- Written by Candice Elliott
Every year there are a slew of tired articles about New Year’s Resolutions. This is not that. This is one simple trick to achieve New Year’s Resolutions.
Your Scum Bag Brain
I get the appeal of New Year’s resolutions. We all like a clean slate and a fresh start and nothing is fresher than a brand new year. We start out excited and have all of the things in place to help us achieve our new goals.
New work out gear, a fridge full of fruit and veg, finely tuned budgets in Mint, nicotine patches at the ready. But those are all the fun parts. Slogging it out day to day is what is hard.
And honestly, have you had the same hand full of resolutions for years now? What makes you think this year will be any different if you don’t do anything different?
Resolutions fail because while we may have all the physical things in place that will help us succeed, the new running shoes, the cook book full of healthy recipes, those things don’t do much to change the way our brains work.
Most of us have what I call a “scum bag” brain. Every feel nauseous and out of nowhere visions of greasy food start dancing in your head? And you’re like, “Who’s doing that?” Or you don’t even want a cigarette but some little voice, coming from somewhere, some how, talks you into it? That’s your scum bag brain.
There are lots of little cute tricks to try to outsmart your scum bag brain. Go to sleep in your work out gear so you can pop of bed ready for the gym! Tell all your family and friends you’re going to stop drinking so they can shame you if you don’t!
All that shit is for people who want to feel good about their goals but actually will quit after a month. Those people are weak. My method is for the strong and determined amongst us.
Discipline, Not Motivation
That’s it. That is the one simple trick to achieve New Year’s Resolutions. The people at Life Hacker hate me!
Some people think they fail to realize goals because they aren’t motivated enough. That’s bullshit. Motivation is easy. We all have it at the beginning of a goal.
It’s also available everywhere. You can get motivated from listening to a song, a podcast, watching a movie, reading a book, seeing a hot boy at the bar.
Anything as readily available as motivation is not that valuable. Lacking motivation is not the problem. Motivation waxes and wanes, that is the problem.
What your sorry ass needs is discipline. Now that, is in short supply and hard to come by. But that doesn’t matter. It’s harder to shirk than motivation. Oh, I don’t feel like cooking today, I’ll just eat fast food. You didn’t feel like doing something so you didn’t! The easiest get out of jail free card ever.
Discipline is only available from one source, you. And probably also the military but that is a kind of extreme solution to losing some weight or saving some money.
But even though the source is limited, it is available to anyone. Few people are naturally gifted at anything. That’s what lazy people tell themselves about people who achieve so they can get through the day with their self esteem intact.
Discipline is the secret behind those “gawd given talents.” To think otherwise diminishes a successful person’s achievements and convinces you that those same achievements are not available to you.
Discipline is what will see you through to reaching a goal. There are no excuses. You just set the parameters and that is the end of the internal debate. You will get up at 6:00 four days a week to work out. You will spend three hours on meal prep Sunday evenings so you have healthy, cheap food to eat during the work week.
Discipline is how you build habits and forming habits is how you achieve goals. Discipline removes choices and it removes emotion. Should you hit the snooze? That isn’t a choice available to you. You’ve disciplined yourself to get up at 6:00 to work out.
You had a lousy day at work. You feel sad, upset, stressed out, whatever. You know what would make you feel better? Shopping! No. Feeling sad and stressed out are emotions and emotions have no place in discipline.
You didn’t make a budget category labeled “Buying Shit I Don’t Need Because I Felt A Feeling And It Made Me Uncomfortable.” You’ve been here before anyway. You spend money or eat or drink too much to make yourself feel better and end up feeling worse because you let yourself down. And then the spiral continues down and down.
Not a problem for you anymore. You are disciplined. I’m not saying it’s easy but just because something isn’t easy does not mean it’s beyond the realm of human capability.
Discipline is like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets. You don’t have to wait until you “feel like it” to do anything. You can do it now. Maybe “feeling like it” will never come.
I hate winter so I rarely “feel like” going out in the cold dark morning to run. But I do it anyway and I’ve done it for so long now, that it’s just a reflex. I built up that muscle and it’s strong.
Timing is Important
No excuses but I’ll also point out that I never feel January 1 is the best time to start certain goals. Particularly health related goals. It is cold to run in the park in the winter.
The produce available is not as yummy in the coldest months of the year. Who would rather have a grapefruit instead of some berries or a peach? Who would rather eat broccoli than a vine ripened heirloom tomato? I’d rather eat a big hot bowl of pasta than a salad when it’s 30 degrees out.
Eating and drinking out are the main focus of socializing when it’s cold and dark at 4:00. I’d rather meet my friends for a hike than a meal out but I mean in June, not January. So if you really know that it will take you some time to build up your discipline in those areas, waiting until spring to start is not the worst idea.
However, if your goals are more money, family or career related, the time of year and the weather make no difference. Your time is now.
That’s it. No top ten list of ways to stick to your resolutions. Just one thing you have to remember. Discipline over motivation. Don’t let me catch you back here next year.